July 08, 2013

That wedding thing

"How's the wedding preparation?"

 The above question ranks high in the 'Questions I've been asked' list recently. It's strange, and a little annoying because I actually don't feel like getting started on how it is coming along. First of all, it has not been too impressive (we are still more than 16 months away from Finale), and secondly, it's too advanced to start telling people about how it's been coming along. 

 In all honesty, of course we have started preparing. I mean, the fact that we have all this time ahead of this overrated 'once in a lifetime', surely we would be pretty naive to not start planning early and hopefully, through that early planning, get some good deals and intelligent ideas. 

 But, all sensible brides (and grooms) should know this universal observation: the earlier you share your wedding prep with others, the faster you'd turn into a -zilla, through the bane of unnecessary opinions. Suddenly, everyone has some other preferences and would see it as a sign of respect if I could take their preferences into consideration. Since I'm admittedly, not very well-adjusted in taking instructions, there is no need to encourage instructors, no matter how well-meaning they are. 

 'Finale'.

 That is the term I've started to refer our wedding to. You see, the way I see it... the proposal... it's like being handed a list of 'To-do's that would all accumulate into one huge performance on the wedding day, which I now call the 'Finale Performance'. First of all, it does feel very much like a performance - the other point in one's life that one would have so many relatives and friends all come together to see one in a pretty damn fine costume would be the burial day, or in Singapore, the day of cremation. There is nothing morbid about this. It is, in fact, all very realistic. Secondly, I do have to get up early in the morning, put on white dress, have someone do up my face and hair and then, when it's my turn to 'meet the participants', make sure I smile like my face doesn't know any other expressions - which of course, is not true. 

 The raised eyebrow, rolling of eyes, dropping of jaw, going all mushy and cute to get (some of) my ways... 

 Actions and gestures that I've been doing quite a lot with Emman recently. So, he's been meddling with a wedding website. And had this idea of getting our friends to do a parody for Grease's Summer Nights. And occasionally, riding on my tentative and random ideas, making them into something like a plan. Of course, his new role in the new company is very conducive for all these extra-curricular activities. I'm not complaining too. Better to have an involved partner than to have one who just sits around and signs the cheques, though Emman signs the cheques too... and of course, sometimes, I'm the one who sits around. haha

 A bad habit.

 *raises right hand up. It's mine. I should not have, but I do joke about returning the ring. Um, about once or twice every fortnight, and more if he tries to be funny-but-annoying with me. But of course, we both know I'm joking, though it's really, in truth, a pretty bad joke. I mean, the marriage counselors and professionals would give a no-no to this. Still, I do it. 

 I think, the idea of being married both excites and frightens me. As mentioned, I've never been good in taking instructions, unless of course, I can agree with them. The prospect of having another set of elderly to respect and listen to (I am, by the way, talking about a pair of rather traditional and conventional elderly who do not speak my language) is not an exciting one. I don't even take instructions from my own parents and sometimes, even wonder if my parents actually feel respected in the house. So, it is plain to see that welcoming in-laws with open arms is certainly going to be tall order for me. But yes, I am excited to run my own household (but leave the vacuuming and ironing to Emman) and to basically, attempt to annoy the man of the house day-in, day-out. License to nag! We are talking about 24-7! 

 So, this pretty much sums up the wedding thing for now. Notice I haven't mention anything fun about it? There is nothing fun about it, really. But, hmm... there are some bits that I am anticipating. And, those bits are just gonna have to multiply to make A Little Grand Narrative of the two persons - Emmanuel and Jancy. 

 That, by the way, is our wedding theme. ^^

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 16:09

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